A Key Factor to Sharpening your Strengths

The most successful leaders are ones who have found, developed and are using their strengths. If we want to reach our potential in life then sharpening our strengths is a key factor. We must develop our strengths while having other people around us who can complement our weaknesses, thus allowing us to avoid our weaknesses. There are a variety of ways to develop our strengths like reading, attending conferences, getting around successful people, and practicing.

We need to remember the best way to sharpen your strengths involves other people. If we want to maximize our strengths we need other people in our life. People who will come beside us and help us become better. It is true that, “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” This should remind us of the types of relationships we should have in our life. Each person in the relationship should be getting stronger and becoming better because of each other. This is also why it is important to have the right people around you, people who trust each other and have each other’s best interest in mind.

The relationships we have should be where each person is becoming better, being sharpened, and it is a win-win situation. We also need people who are coaching and mentoring us in our area of our personal strengths. It’s important to remember that no one individual has the ability to fully sharpen or develop their own strengths. If we want to reach our strengths potential it requires doing things like reading books and attending conferences. But I have found one of the most essential factors is having people around you who will help sharpen your strengths. These should be people who are strong and experienced in the areas we want to become better in. So if you want to reach your strength potential then make sure you have people who are coaching and mentoring you.

Question: Do you have people who are coaching or mentoring you and how have you seen the benefits from it?

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  • Wow, love your insights here!

    I love this post because it talks about something I have mentioned in my current blog post – working on my strengths is better than focusing on my weaknesses. I like your take on the importance of connections and relationships – it’s really about “staffing” our weakneses :)

    On mentors – I wouldn’t be where I am today without them. I have four of them (two couples:). They are pillars in my life, strengthening and mentoring me in purpose, marriage, relationships, business, my relationship with God e.t.c

    Thank you for sharing

    • Anonymous

      Do you have a URL you can post so other readers can read it?

      I have seen the benefits from working in areas of strengths instead of weaknesses. I can also say the same thing about some of the spiritual mentors in my life. I put a high value on those types of relationships. They are great to have.

      Thank you for reading and sharing.

  • Powerful post! This is timely advice for my husband and I. We are praying about a serious life changing event and this helps add some clarity. Thank you.

    oh, and my husband helps sharpen me. He is such an answer to prayer, I couldn’t imagine a better husband suited for me. God is so good!

    • Anonymous

      Glad it helped. I will be praying for you as well. That God would lead you and your husband in the best direction.

      Having your spouse sharpen you is so important for a healthy marriage. My wife and I always try and sharpen each other. Thank you for reading.

  • Interesting you should be talking about strengths today. I started to read StandOut hoping to further clarify my strengths!

    I have not had any official coaches but I do have many unofficial coaches. Guys like Michael Hyatt, Dan Miller, Kevin Miller, Andy Stanley, and more. Through listening to their podcasts, I have been able to gain insights that I would not have seen before.

    They’ve encouraged me to start a business. To start blogging. To share my experiences and insights. I’m seeing an extreme amount of growth in my knowledge, an increase in my health, and so much more.

    • Anonymous

      Standout is on my book list, it looks like a great book. You will have to let me know who you liked it. I also have a bunch of unofficial mentors. It sounds like you have really grown because of these people.

      I think we should have coaches/mentors for different area of our life (Not just one). I have a spiritual mentor, have also had a business coach, and now I’m personally looking for other people who can coach/mentor me in the area of leadership and speaking.

  • I actually don’t have a mentor or coach right now, but I’m working on finding one. I know the benefits, as I had one in the past, but I just haven’t found a good match right now.

    • Anonymous

      Having a good match is key. Wait until you have found one, one will come at some point. Thank you for sharing.

  • jackalopekid

    My coaches and mentors have helped me best by pulling out of me what I believe and helping me put that into a clear concise definition. They have helped me make my “gray” area smaller and things are much more black and white.

    • Anonymous

      Sounds like you have really benefited from having coaches and mentors in your life. That it what a mentor should do, pull the best out of you. Thank you checking out the blog.

  • Unfortunately I don’t have a personal coach. I learn from trial and error, but I’m learning from books (e.g.: John Maxwell, Steven Covey, etc) and blogs (e.g.: Michael Hyatt, Jeff Goins, etc). I would truly love personal coaching if I can…

    • Anonymous

      These are some great ways to grow and develop. I would encourage you to find some one in your same niche area that would sharpen you. Both in your areas of strengths and becoming a better person. Thank you for stopping by.

  • I regularly get together with a mentor of mine for lunch. I always have questions for him, and I believe he’s helped me to sharpen my strengths.

    • Anonymous

      That is great. Being prepared for your meeting with your mentor is so important.

  • I fully agree with your point, Dan. You need to surround yourself with people who can help you develop. Not in a self-serving way, but more in a mutually beneficial way. It’s a key thing to understand when trying to develop yourself into a better leader.

    • Anonymous

      Thank you for taking the time to read and comment.

  • Susan

    Yes! I have some wonderful people who are teaching me, daily. You, Loren, Bryan, Benjer…. all of my Blog Buddies who share wonderful insight with anyone who is willing to stop by and learn. I cherish this cyber fellowship because it brings growth and teaching that I would not otherwise get. Also, my Christian neighbors, friends and family give me accountability. Last, but not least – my Pastor, who teaches with the love of Christ and the heart of true Bible geek. God has greatly blessed me – so too, I pray that He blesses you and your readers with an abundance of growth to lead every one of us to that potential; that purpose He has in mind for us in our unique ways.

    • Anonymous

      These are some great people. Thank you for the kind words.

  • Spencer McDonald

    Here is what Spencer has learned over the years.

    When you entrust your ideas, heart, or soul to other people, you better know if they value what you have to say. Will they genuinely embrace helping you or will they sabbatoge you subconsciously? This is real. Be guarded who you divulge your hopes and dreams to. Find those you really trust and engage that person or people.

    Many books have been written on the subject of trust. Here is what I say related to trust in general. Trust is a perception. We each hold the trust value up to a light differently. I hold it up and say trust is honoring your commitments you make. Others hold trust up and say trust is simply showing up. Can you see where these to ideas are like batteries that repel. Now, what really turns trust from perception into common value among all is accountability. When you hold someone, a team, or organization accountable for their actions and outcomes you align all to marching toward the same end state. This is what really transforms the perception of trust into valuable reality.

    Coming back to others helping you be the best you can be. Yes, you do need trusted friends (accountability partners), mentors, or coaches. And yes… you need to be able to trust them with your deep information and know a good person or coach will use accountability to hold your feet to the fire based on what you desire to be, do, or have.

    Nice post Dan. Timely. Thanks.

    Spencer

    • Anonymous

      These are some insightful thoughts. No matter a person own definition of trust, it needs to be apart of any relationship, especially a coaching or mentor one. Thank you for taking the time to share the valuable thoughts.

  • Matthew Wright

    So true! I have various people around me who help me develop my strengths and manage my weaknesses. Sometimes it is easy to get caught up in business though and to not meet with these people who God has placed in our lives. Thanks for the reminder!

    • Anonymous

      Taking the time to meet with your coach or mentor can be hard but it’s defiantly worth it. Glad you where able to stop by and read the post.

  • A. Amos Love

    Dan

    You write…
    “The most successful leaders are ones who have found, developed and are using their strengths.”

    This sounds good if you’re speaking of “successful leaders” in the worlds system? But…

    If you’re speaking about – The Body of Christ – The Church – The Ekklesia – The Called Out Ones?
    God’s kids? Developing *their strengths?* You might be in for a rude awakening – like I was.

    In my experience…
    God, will have a few humbling experiences ahead for those who depend on “Their Strength.”
    So you come to a place where you cry out to God – Heeeellllppppp – I can’t do it…

    Seems it’s only in our weakness – can we experience God’s glory – NOT our strength.

    Isa 40:29
    He giveth power to the faint;
    and to them that have no might he increaseth strength.

    Paul, understood why he had to endure so many trials, beatings, starvings, stonings…

    2 Cor 1:9
    But we had the sentence of death in ourselves,
    that we should “NOT” trust in ourselves, *but in God*
    which raiseth the dead:

    2 Cor 3:5
    NOT that we are sufficient of ourselves to think any thing as of ourselves;
    but “our sufficiency is of God;”

    2 Cor 12:9-10
    And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee:
    for *my strength* (God’s Strength) is made perfect in *weakness.*
    Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches,
    in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake:
    for *when I am weak,* then am I strong.

    Hmmm? God’s ways are NOT our ways…
    Our weakness – more important in Jesus then – our strength – Go figure…

    Instead of focusing on ourselves – our strengths – our weaknesses…
    Maybe we should be focusing on Jesus. He who loses his life will save it…

    Would you rather live, and operate, in *Your Strength?*
    Or – Would you rather live, and operate, in *God’s Strength?*

    You know the old saying… Pay me now – or – Pay me later… And later is a lot more expensive…
    As you continue to focus on your strengths, and increasing your strengths…
    The – Pay me Later Plan – Becomes – The Pay me Greater Plan…
    But God will have sons – humble sons – NOT succesful leaders according to the world…

    We must decrease – He must increase…

    • Anonymous

      You bring up some good points and passages. I was speaking so anyone could read and apply these thoughts.

      But it is true that Christians are called to rely not on their own strengths or power but on God’s. We must remember anything great is only accomplished through God being the head of a person life.

      Thank you so much for sharing.

  • Lincoln Parks

    Dan, If it were not for Spiritual leaders, Business leaders and mentors in my life I don’t think I would be where I am today in both aspects of my life. Its very important to surround yourself with individuals that you can not only trust but also confide in and make sure they give you the proper mentoring.

    • Anonymous

      I can say the same thing about my life. Those relationships are so important. Thank you for reading and sharing.