There are habits that, if applied can guarantee you will be a likeable leader. In the last post we discussed remaining present, getting to know your people, and lifting people up and avoiding gossip. These habits alongside the following 3 will help you to be likeable. Learn and apply them and your likability with your followers is guaranteed to skyrocket.
4. Appropriately share your emotions
The Center for Creative Leadership shared an insightful statistic about emotional intelligence and a leader’s success. They said,
75% of careers are derailed for reasons related to emotional competencies, including inability to handle interpersonal problems; unsatisfactory team leadership during times of difficulty or conflict; or inability to adapt to change or elicit trust.
Having emotional intelligence plays a significant role when it comes to being liked.
Leaders should appropriately share the emotions they are feeling. You are able to use your emotions for your advantage when you incorporate them into your conversations and body language. It’s ok to share your anger or frustration about an undesirable outcome, the team not meeting a deadline, not making the sales goals, etc. But you have to do it in an appropriate way and where you are focusing on the problem or situation and not on the individual.
You should also make sure to always share the positive, happy, or excited emotions you feel. For example, when a person or team achieves a major goal or has gone above and beyond to reach a deadline is a great opportunity to share positive emotions. When you share appropriately by sharing your emotions you will be seen as real and in turn people will like you more.
5. Stay humble
Humility shows through in your attitude and behavior and so does pride. Prideful people put up walls between themselves and others which turn people away from them. Their selfishness and arrogance cause people to resist them and their authority. People generally don’t like leaders who are puffed up with pride.
This is exactly why we need to stay humble. We have to daily clothe ourselves with humility. Pastor and author Rick Warren says, “True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” We can remain humble by remembering we are not as good as we think we are and not allowing our success to define the type of person we are or will become. It’s also about turning our eyes away from ourselves so we can focus on serving and adding value to those around us. People are drawn to and like humble leaders.
6. Relax and have fun
Leadership is not all about driving toward goals and getting results. Leaders need to relax and have fun at work on a regular basis. This is especially true after the team has achieved a major project or reached a huge goal. We should celebrate successes and reward team member’s efforts. When you have achieved a win or during random occasions why not reward your team with some good old fun.
Consider buying lunch for everyone, going on a fun activity together like paint-balling or a picnic at a park, or giving permission for them to leave early or take an extra day off work. These can raise people’s moral and shows them you care about them.
Questions: How have you implemented these ways to be a likeable leader? Can you add to the list?
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