Emotional intelligence (E.I.) is a crucial but often overlooked leadership attribute. Having emotional intelligence allows you to recognize you’re own and other’s emotional state, manage them appropriately, and be able to use them to influence your behaviors and attitude. Author Daniel Goleman said this about emotional intelligence, “If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” When you are emotionally intelligent you will be able to effectively lead the people on your team. To raise your emotional intelligent you should consistently recognize and show your emotions.
Recognize your emotions
The first step is to be aware and recognize your emotions. In any given day you can feel a variety of different emotions. You should practice taking the time to recognize and evaluate the emotions you are having, especially during times of crisis or demand. When this is done it will allow you to be aware of your emotional state and be in a position to manage your emotions. Recognizing and then managing your emotions is the first step of being an emotionally intelligent leader.
Show your emotions
In Marin Luther King’s “I have a dream” speech he showed the emotions he was feeling about equal rights. His passion and emotions caused people to stand beside him during his leadership. You can use your emotions for your advantage when you incorporate them into your speaking, speeches, and body language. Be careful not to share or embody the emotions that could be potentially damaging, for example uncontrolled anger or unresolved frustration, these types of emotions could negatively impact your leadership. At the same time you should not be afraid to appropriately communicate your feelings with your people. Showing your emotions tells your people it’s safe to share their own emotions.
Questions: Are you intentionally raising and maintain your emotional intelligence as a leader? How do you practice being an emotionally intelligent leader?
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