In the previous part we discussed 3 ways to foster and move toward good and positive thoughts: consuming good content, managing inward dialog, and starting to imagine. If you missed the first part click here to read it. Let’s look at a powerful quote before reading the other two ways to manage your thoughts for maximum leadership effectiveness. James Allen said, “You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.” This profound truth shows the reason why we need to guard and protect our thoughts. Here are two ways to foster and move toward the good and positive:
1. Be wise with your associations-
Effective leaders are wise about who they associate with on a regular basis. The people you come in contact with on a regular basis can influence and impact your thinking and thoughts. This is why you need to make sure you are wise about those you spend the majority of your time with or around. The fact is if you lead in a medium or large organization you will come across all different types of people who have a variety of personalities, attitudes, behaviors, and background. You will have people you will come in contact with and/or need to manage but at the same time need to limit your time with or around. While you should care and support those around you, you can’t give your time equally to everyone. The people you spend time with the majority of the time should:
• Have your best interest in mind
• Believe 100 percent in you and your leadership
• Have a desire to help and add value to you and the team
• Regularly possess a positive attitude about life
• Have a positive perspective and outlook about life
When you associate with these types of people it will positively impact your thoughts and leadership. Be intentional about spending time with these types of people while placing boundaries with those who might negatively impact your thoughts.
2. Develop a grateful and thankful attitude-
Being grateful and thankful about your life will generate good and positive thoughts. Leaders should reflect on and become content about their life. Almost every leader strives for increased success and achievement. This can produce even more monetary rewards. While it’s ok to push ourselves toward new levels of success and fame we should be grateful and thankful for what we have. Don’t forsake a grateful and thankful attitude in pursuit for more power or financial gain. Be grateful and thankful for whatever you have and wherever you are at in your life, no matter how “small” or insignificant you might think it is.
Take time to verbally speak your gratitude and share with loved ones how thankful you are of them. Melody Beattie said, “Gratitude (and thankfulness) unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” Develop a grateful and thankful attitude to better manger your thoughts because it will allow for maximum leadership effectiveness.
Questions: How have you applied the two above points into your life and leadership? Have you seen a difference since you started to manage your thoughts toward the good or positive?