In the first part of this series I wrote about inspiring and serving those around you. In the second part I wrote about sharing what you are learning and lending your power or authority. In this series concluding post you will read that you can increase your influence by choosing to add value, maintaining a positive attitude, and starting something that brings value.
Chose to add value
Your influence will increase when you add value to those around you. Adding value is about serving, encouraging, and helping the people around you. When you encounter someone you have the choice to add value or subtract value from them. Chose to daily add value to those in your areas of influence, to humbly focus on the other persons wants or needs above your own.
Do this by adapting an added step to the classical version of the golden rule. The Matthew 7:12 version of the golden rules says, “So then, whatever you desire that others would do to and for you, even so do also to and for them.” While this rule is foundationally true, I’d like to take it one step further. You should do unto others what they want you to do for or to them.
Everyone is different with a variety of desires, dreams, and wants. What one person wants will probably not be what the other person wants. Be intentional about learning about the wants or needs of the other person then do what you can to provide the solution for them. Do not do what you want for them but what they want. This lifts them to a new level of hope and leaves them better off than before you interacted with them.
Maintain a positive attitude
Your attitude can significantly impacts the people around you. Formal Baseball player Wade Boggs said, “A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results.” A positive attitude can increase your influence while a negative attitude will decrease your influence. To win friends and influence people requires maintaining a positive attitude. Alongside a positive attitude you should be deliberate about being kind and nice.
The truth is that you will have bad days when you will not feel like maintaining a positive or optimistic attitude, days when everything seems to be going wrong and against you. It can be tempting to allow your emotions or situation to dictate the attitude you will have. When these times happen you should acknowledge your feelings and accept what is happening around you, take time to adapt nourishment centers into your life, and do your best to at least have a good attitude.
Start doing something that brings value
When I first discovered my life purpose, passions, and areas of strengths I wanted to start doing something that would allow me to help people (That were connected to those 3 areas). At first I wanted to write leadership books through a traditional publisher. For several years I waited for someone else to find me and give me permission to start writing. I was naive and thought my passion was enough to get me a book contract and overlooked the skill and experience that would be required. Then I heard about blogging so I stopped waiting and started writing. Since that choice, I’ve been able to gain and increase my level of influence because I chose to start blogging.
“One thing I do is use my blog to share with people what God is revealing to me about my own Spiritual walk and/or the world around us. As for growing my sphere of influence…well, I’m trying to be faithful with what God has given me and trusting Him for the increase in HIS timing and will.”
She is like so many other people that have started writing to share the message they have and increased their level of influence as a result. You should consider starting or building something that would bring value to other whether it’s a blog or something else. When you do you will begin to see your level of influence increase.
Questions: Can you add to the list of ways to increase your influence? Which of these methods do you practice and maintain?
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