[This is a post written by Zechariah Newman. Zechariah is a Figaro’s Pizza franchisee, writer, and speaker. You can check out his blog here and follow him on Twitter or Facebook. I encourage you to check out his brand new book Dreams that Last: Building a rock solid foundation to pursuing dreams with a family.]
It had been a long, hard day. Beaten down by the daily grind, I am driving home trying to restore my energy. Even though I have worked a long day and led my team, my greatest leadership calling and opportunity is awaiting me. As a husband and father my family should not get the leftovers of my life, rather all of who I am. I am ashamed to say that sometimes they get a grumpy and tired version of myself. One that is distracted and not present with them. My short window with them is not what I wish it was. Sometimes though I am alive, attentive and I am the man that God wants me to be. If you struggle with being an engaged leader at home these 4 things will help you.
1. Worship music. In the car on the way home this is all that I listen to and I believe you should too. This draws us closer to our Lord and Savior. It makes sure that we are listening to something positive and uplifting. The world can pull us down all day. We need that time of worshiping the Creator to realign ourselves with Him.
2. Eat something. This is something that is simple, yet powerful for me. Have a snack in the car on the way home such as some type of protein bar, banana or anything that gives you energy. I get home around seven o’clock so if I don’t eat something, my inner Fred Flintstone comes out. Put fuel back into your tank as it will help your attitude and energy level.
3. Plan. We all know that at work we will be much more effective if we write out and plan the day. I have a sinking suspicion that most of us don’t do this with our family time. It is important to show time and attention to everyone in the house. I have witnessed people come home from work and go straight to sitting in front of the television. Seek out your family and at least be intentional about showing time and care for your spouse and kids. Don’t be strangers under one roof.
4. Kiss. Number one in my house is my wife. Number one in your house should be your spouse. I learned this from my parents and we implement this in our house as it helps to realign our relationship; the seven second kiss. Yeah you heard right, seven seconds and not some drive-by smooch. When I walk in the door, my wife and I walk straight to each other and kiss for seven seconds. By the time we are done, the kids are grabbing our legs and wanting attention. We have connected and the weight of both of our days has dissipated.
Nothing on this list is rocket science, but I assure you it is effective. Let’s live life the way it was intended with our priorities lived out. Refuel your body, mind, and spirit so that you can be the spouse and parent you are supposed to be. Be blessed on your journey.
Question: How do you refuel to be engaged at home?