It’s guest post Monday! Kevin Cole is a writer & entrepreneur at The Mental Playground delivering practical advice on how to navigate the most complex organism known to man: Your Own Mind.
I sit nervously in the chair as I log in to Skype.
I’m fidgeting like crazy and my heart is pumping out of my chest.
The seconds tick away in slow motion as I’m about to enter the leadership position.
I hit “Video Call” and begin my coaching career.
Breaking the Threshold
When you put yourself in a leadership position, you are faced with a lot of responsibility.
People will start to look to you for guidance. They will ask you questions and you will have to give them answers.
You’re actions are being judged and a strand of doubt can crush your credibility.
Needless to say, it can be pretty intimidating.
On the day that I started my coaching career I knew I was about to embark on a journey of learning and leadership. Fears and doubts were apparent but I marched forward despite of these overwhelming feelings.
Here’s how I have dealt with the fear of being a leader.
This is the first point for a reason. You can’t improve at anything without consistently practicing.
So get in as much time as you can in the leadership position and work at it. It’s the only way you’ll see improvement.
As your skills increase, you will feel more confident and less scared.
Be totally honest with the people you are leading. Tell them this is a new endeavor and you’re learning as you go.
But make it apparent that this is a team effort and you will do everything in your power to lead effectively.
3. Mental Preparation
Before you enter the leadership position, take a few moments to prepare yourself. Think about how you can help each one of the people you are leading.
Tell yourself that you are still learning and will make mistakes but that’s okay. Get your mind ready to go so there is no “warm up” when you start leading.
When you do start leading, be fully present and in the moment. If you stray away from the present moment, there is a good chance you will start to get into your own head and overthink things.
You will judge yourself and doubt your decisions. So if you start to lose presence in the midst of leading, bring yourself back into the moment and focus on the tasks in front of you.
Being a leader will naturally be scary at times. It comes with the territory of any form of rewarding work. But it doesn’t have to deter you from being an extraordinary leader.
Just recognize that you’re stepping out of your comfort zone and into a whole new world of possibilities.
Enjoy the position, learn a lot and change lives.
Questions: Have you had to deal with the fear of leading? How do you handle the fears you have?