Leadership is about connecting and building relationships with people so you can influence them toward a common vision. However, not all relationships are created equally. This is because some relationships allow you to thrive forward and others can damage or hurt your leadership. The people who can hurt or cause harm to you and your team include:
- People who are on the team but do not want to take the journey with you or move toward the vision.
- People who refuse or have no desire to grow, learn, or change.
- People who have a negative attitude or bad mindset about life.
- People who don’t have a strong work ethic.
- People who have no desire to positively influence those around them.
- People who have weak character or integrity.
- People who are not team players and only want personal success or recognition.
It’s important for a leader to care about and show grace to everyone but at some point one has to evaluate the person and effect that person has on the team to determine if the person should stay on the team. If you are not in a role that allows you to make this decision you should set boundaries between you and the other person so you can limit the amount of time you spend together.
In place of those who hurt or negatively impact your leadership chose the right people to associate with and place on your team. I have found at least 3 types of relationships you should have which can maximize your leadership and be valuable to your team. They include:
1. Inner circle members- Every leader should have a small group of inner circle members who provide guidance, wise advice, and nourishment. These are people who support and stay with you through the different seasons of life and leadership. They have your best interest in mind and do whatever they can so you will be successful.
2. Supporters- These are people outside of your inner circle but who are still closely connected with you. They bring support to you through their commitment and dedication to your message, dreams, vision, and leadership. Supporters can include a family member, follower, fan, employee, or a person in your tribe. Every leader needs supporters around them.
3. Lifters- Lifters are people who lift your leadership and what you are doing to the next level. They provide a positive attitude, energy, and optimistic viewpoint. When they are around they help create a desirable and enjoyable work environment. This can help produce better results that lead to achieving goals and the vision.
Questions: What are some other reasons why a relationship can hurt you or your leadership? Can you add to the list of relationships that would help and add value to us?