Insecure leaders are dangers. Dictionary.com shows the reason why these leaders can be dangerous. Insecurity is defined as being, “subject to fear & doubt, anxious, a risk & danger, and not firmly or reliably placed.” When insecurity is present in a leaders life it becomes a cap to their influence and effectiveness. It begins to hurt the leader, the people around them, and the organization. The reason why it hurts everyone is because,
“Most bad behavior comes from insecurity.” ~ Debra Winger (Click here to Tweet that)
A leader who is insecure will have challenges successfully leading those around them. This is because their actions, attitude, and motives will be controlled and driven by their personal insecurity. Below are some negative characteristics and unhealthy aspects of an insecure leader:
- They control people, systems, polices, and are micro managers.
- They avoid partnering or hiring smart, talented, and people better then themselves.
- They create an insecure work environment.
- They avoid moving outside of their comfort zone.
- They resist personal, organizational, or team growth or change.
- They avoid calculated risks because of the fear of failure.
- They don’t encourage or empower their people.
- They guard against building open and strong relationships.
- They see others through their insecurity.
No person or leader however good they might be is exempt from potentially becoming or being insecure. This is why it’s essential to be able to identify and eliminate insecurity from our life. To do this I suggest:
Lead self well- The most important person you can lead is yourself. The reason can be found in the title of a recent blog post by Juan Cruz, “We Must Lead Ourselves Before we can Lead Others” These are true and important words to remember. An important aspect to leading self well is to become self aware. This mean you are aware and comfortable with your strengths, weaknesses, personality, temperament, and emotions. You know you have been uniquely made and you accept it. A powerful way to avoid insecurity is to be aware and have control of your inwards thoughts and dialog.
Develop trusted relationships- The people in your inner circle will either lead you forward or hold you back. This is why it’s essential to build friendships with secure, positive, and confident people. My friend Lincoln Parks wrote an insightful post titled 7 Steps to building long lasting relationships. I encourage you to read and implement those steps into your life. When you have trusted relationships, those people can help you spot areas you need to change (Insecurity is one area) and be a support for you.
Question: What are some other ways a person can avoid becoming insecure?