Spiritual Leadership Principle- Advise (Pt.2)

In the first section of the spiritual leadership principle I shared about when the people asked King Rehoam to lower the taxes. Before making the decision he was given advice from the older wise men who said to lower the taxes and also the younger men who had grown up with him who said to raise the taxes even more. After getting this advice he chose to follow the counsel of the younger men. The results lead the kingdom to be divided and in rebellion. Also in the post we discussed three advice pitfalls. To read the first part click here.

The importance of wise and Godly advice

If you want to serve your people and make the right leadership choices and decisions then you, as a leader, must get and follow advice from wise and Godly people. When a leader fails to receive and follow the right advice then they set themselves up for potentially losing time, energy, money, influence, and their ministry. When King Rehoam followed the advice of his unwise and ungodly peers it caused his kingdom and influence to be negatively impacted. This is why it’s so important for a leader to get advice from wise and Godly people. Getting the right advice can be a safeguard from unnecessary failures or mistakes.

Getting advice also allows a leader to hear different perspectives and see an outside view of the situation and decision. This is important because no one person can fully see the entire situation or the impact of the decision. Having others with different viewpoints who can give you feedback and share insights is important.

Having a strong inner circle

To consistently make the right decisions consider having a team of inner circle people who are wise and Godly. These people should have a clear picture and viewpoint of who you are, both on a personal and professional level. They should include people who,

  • Know your personality, strengths, and weaknesses.
  • Have your best interest in mind.
  • Know you and your heart.
  • Have a good reputation and track record.
  • Know how to encourage or confront you when needed.

These types of relationships are based on honesty, trust, and openness of both the leader and inner circle members.

Finding those who are wise and Godly

It can take time to find and have a team of inner circle team members. When finding people for your inner circle or to advice you look at some foundational and situational areas. The foundational areas should be non-negotiable part of your inner circles and/or advisors. However the situational areas can be flexible depending on the situation and decision.


Character- The people you choose to follow advice from must have a strong character. They need to be able to make the right moral and ethical choices in all areas of their life. When you surround yourself with people who have strong character you are able make better leadership decisions, because they will advise you based on what is morally and ethically right.

Integrity- Integrity is when a person is honest, does what is right, and takes the high road. Alan Cohen said, “You are in integrity when the life you are living on the outside matches who you are on the inside.” People who have integrity are the same and do what is right no matter whether they are around others or they are by themselves.

Values- Having values means to “consider with respect to worth, or importance” and “to regard or esteem highly.” Those areas could include a person’s family, relationships, spirituality, or health. The people who are wise and Godly know and follow their personal values. 


Experience-To receive wise advice requires finding people who are experienced in the area you need advice in. It’s important to look at a person’s track record even if they have experience in a specific area. This will allow you to see if they have gained the wisdom to advise you. When getting advice you might have to go outside of your inner circle depending on the decision. This can help you find those who can provide you with the facts and information to make a sound decision.

Knowledge- When seeking advice for a decision the person should be knowledgeable and be considered an expert in the area you need the advise in. This often requires years of experience, personal growth, and training. This is one of the reasons why king Rehoam’s older advisors were knowledgeable and wise. They had gained knowledge through the years of advising King Solomon. Make sure the people have the knowledge that would help you make the right decision.

Spiritual Leadership Principle: To be a successful Christian leader and achieve great things for the kingdom requires having people around us who give us wise and Godly advice.

Questions: How intentional should a leader be to have an inner circle of wise and Godly advisers? How has wise and Godly advice helped you make the right decision? 

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16 thoughts on “Spiritual Leadership Principle- Advise (Pt.2)

  1. Wise and godly counsel is very important for leadership. I think it’s a balance of seeking it out and praying / trusting God to bring wise counsel to you in the form of people you never would have sought out.

  2. Good stuff, Dan. I think having any advise other than Godly, is a recipe for disaster. In fact, I know first hand that is the case. It’s a struggle to seek and wait on the Lord, but not waiting or taking bad advise because it’s what we want to hear is life altering, not only for us, but everyone around us.

    • Dustin,

      Great point about “without it you are one bad choice away from disaster.” It’s what happens when we don’t seek out wise advice. Thank you for stopping by and sharing.

  3. This is great post Dan.
    At one point in life, I was about to walk down a path that would have led me in different road. Of course I only saw ‘different’ from hind sight because at that time i believed it was the right decision. But my mentor stepped in and provided a thorough push-back. Hadn’t she done that, i would not have stopped, thought – through things and made different judgement call.

    it’s so true what you say, that inner circle needs to understand you and see where you are going. Someone else would probably have lauded my efforts and decison cos that route was awesome and coveted by others. But my leader knew me, and the kind of person i was and thus was ready to hold me accountable.

  4. Great thoughts here. This past year I started being more intentional with my inner circle. I meet with two other guys on a regular base and am trying to grow with them. I met with a third guy this past week and I hope to add him to my inner circle so we can grow and challenge one another as well.

    • That’s great Eric, I think you used a key point about, “Being more intentional with your inner circle.” It can take time and work to put together a good inner circle but it’s so essential. Thank you for reading and sharing.

  5. It’s funny that you mention this, since this is something that has been going through my mind a lot lately. I went to lunch today with a spiritual advisor of mine, have lunch scheduled tomorrow, and the next day after that with some as well. It’s proved invaluable in my life.

    • Your a wise leader Loren. Taking time to be around other spiritual advisers is so important. It sounds your doing a great job with surrounding yourself with wise and Godly people. Keep it up man. Thank you for sharing.