Strong Marriage Equals Strong Leader

I believe The True Measure Of Success is determined by your home life. This is because a person’s home life greatly impacts every other area of their life, either positively or negatively. Author Cliff Isaacson said, “A good marriage is good for you. That isn’t just a platitude. Mounting research shows that it is the literal truth. When your marriage is healthy, your body and mind are healthier.” This is also true with your leadership.

When a leader builds and maintains a strong marriage and home life then it produces success within every other area. It also allows you to be making progress toward your leadership potential. When a leader does not focus on or make their marriage a top priority then it negatively impacts them in every area. Having a strong marriage requires,

  • Time- It takes time to build and have a strong and healthy marriage.
  • Energy-Having a strong marriage requires your best energy, especially after a long or hard day of work.
  • Effort- A strong marriage only happens with deliberate effort, you have to work at building and maintaining a strong marriage.
  • Focus- It requires knowing and focusing on your greatest priorities, which should be in the areas of your home life.

Since your home life is crucial to your leadership, here are 3 suggestions on how to have and maintain a strong marriage:

1.Maintain balance- If you want a strong marriage then balance is key. Balance between your personal and professional life leads to having a sustainable family life. Zig Ziglar said, “I believe that being successful means having a balance of success stories across the many areas of your life. You can’t truly be considered successful in your business life if your home life is in shambles.” To help you maintain a balanced life schedule time with your spouse and family on a regular basis.

2.Appreciate your greatest assets- The greatest asset a person has is their spouse. Those who are striving to grow and have a healthy marriage also encourage and make the other person better than they are. Behind every successful leader is someone who has pushed them toward greatness and in most cases it’s a spouse who does. Show appreciation to your spouse daily through your actions and word

3.Serve at home- Becoming a Servant Leader at home is essential to having a strong marriage. When you serve your spouse it shows them you care about them and their needs. This requires putting your personal needs aside so you can focus and serve your spouse. It might include serving or doing more than expected around the house. When you spouse feels like they are being served then the marriage will be stronger.

Remember: A strong marriage equals a strong leader while a weak marriage equals a weak leader (Click here to Tweet that).

Questions: How much do you think a leader’s home life affects other areas? And what are some other ways a couple can build and have a strong relationship?

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • Dan, I don’t think we can compartmentalize our lives. Each part is connected. They all affect each other.

    • I agree, thank you for reading and sharing.

  • I think that it is all connected. When I came to my current position – I let them know that my wife and family came before they did because that would make me much more effective as a pastor.

    • Jim,

      I think it’s wise for church leaders to do that. It shows the people you have boundaries and that you value your family more than the position(and even church). Thank you for reading and adding to the discussion.

  • Besides God, My marriage is the very most important thing to me. You are right Dan, if you have a great and successful marriage all other areas in your life seem to just fall into place. It affects everything you do and say. Thanks for reminding us all of that very important bond called Marriage and its importance.

    • Your welcome, I think it’s a topic we all need to be reminded about every once in a while. Thank you for adding to the discussion.

  • A strong marriage is key Dan. I have seen people ‘succeed’ at work and business at the expense of their relationship with their spouse. I don’t consider that real success. And deep inside, i know these people would probably be unfulfilled. Cos God has wired us for deep relationship with out significant other.

    I can add learn to communicate well and to resolve conflicts. Also have fun.

    • Ngina,

      I have seen the same thing. It’s sad when that type of thing happens. Great additions. I highly recommend the having fun one:) Thank you for sharing.

  • floyd

    I’m living proof of this fact… Although I can always use a word to remind me of that fact. It’s easy to slip into a rut and not use the actions that truly show love to our spouses. I think I’ll do that today… thanks for the reminder Dan. Truly.

    • I relate with you. At times I find myself in a rut of not showing my love to my wife. God has a great way of reminding me to love my wife like He loves the church. Glad the post helped. I always appreciate your comments.

  • It’s vitally important. Not sure if you’ve read EntreLeadership yet, but Dave makes a great point. He explains how he does the hiring process. One of the steps is to take the prospective employee and their spouse out to dinner. If the spouse is crazy, he doesn’t hire. His feeling is that it all trickles through and affects all areas of life.

    • I read the book and remember that section. What a great idea, right. Thank you for mentioning that.

  • Without good support at home, you’ll never be an effective leader, if one can’t lead his home….. I think you can strengthen your leadership by talking things through with your spouse, have her and you be a team :) You’ll be suprised by how much great input you can get.

    • So true, communicating with your spouse what’s going on in your personal and professional life is so important. I have gain a tone of wisdom through talking with my wife. Thank you for sharing.

  • #3 is huge!!
    M_

  • I’ve been married for 10 years and I’m still working on being a better husband. Thanks for the post Dan!

    • It’s an never ending process. Your welcome.

  • I think you last point hit the nail on the head. Marriage isn’t just about what we get from it, although we do receive a lot of benefits. It’s about serving others ultimately. That’s really tough to do.

    • Amen. Tough but very important. Thank you for reading and sharing.

  • InciteFaith

    Dan,

    From talking with married couples over the recent months, balancing time has been the most problematic issue in marriages. Also I’m noticing that communication is a problem too.

    What I am noticing is that men in the marriage juggle the most. They put more on their plate and make additional commitments that take away time from their home life. (This is an observation, not judgement). So, I think point #1 about balance is so important.

    I think what would help most in this area is if married couples either worked collectively or each spouse played an active role in including each other in their career(s). While home and work life should remain separate, it should not be the means that creates a rift between husband and wife.

    Great insight, Dan.

    • Great observations. Being married and also knowing a lot of married people, I agree about “balancing time” and “communication” being areas that can bring about problems or issues.

      I think your suggestions are right on when it comes to what a married couple can do to have a strong marriage.

      Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts.

  • Living and leading a double life is impossible to do long term. One cannot lead well outside the home if there is no authentic leadership inside the home.

    • I agree. Often people who lead double lives end up falling big time. Leading at home and outside of it go hand in hand. Thank you for adding to the conversation. I always appreciate your comments.

  • This is a fantastic post! I came across it when I saw a quote on Intentional Living from you, “The True Measure Of Success is determined by your home life.” Thank you for writing this post for leaders.

    • Hello,

      I’m glad you saw and enjoy the post. I hope to see you around.

  • Mariuam Sheikh

    nice work!!!!!!
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