Professional studies and research has shown a person cannot grow their IQ. However anyone can develop and raise their emotional intelligence (EI). Emotional intelligence is defined as, “the ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others and of a group.” Having emotional intelligence is a key factor to effectively leading. To develop and Lead with Emotional Intelligence then apply these 3 practices into your leadership:
1. Touch the heart- A leader moves people toward a positive future that allows them to see better results when they touch their heart. This is about digging up and learning about their peoples deepest wants, needs, and desires. John Maxwell says, “Leaders touch a heart before they ask for a hand” (Click here to Tweet that). True influence starts when you take the time to touch the heart of your people. The foundation of doing this begins with trust and having your people’s best interest in mind.
2. Talk less- Talking less allows you to listen more. It shows others you’re willing to hear their ideas and thoughts. This allows you to better connect and understand your people. If you want see what your leading move forward then hearing your people is essential. A leader needs to be able to hear what someone is saying and understand why they are saying it. Talking less also allows you to “identify” your people’s regular emotional state and feelings.
3. Relate with others- Being able to connect and relate with others allows you to better influence them. When it comes to emotional intelligence, this means knowing and being able to relate with the emotions of others. Emotions are a powerful aspect of human behavior, because they are often the driving force of someone’s actions and attitude. When a leader can assess then influence a person and their emotions, without manipulating them, it leads to a better outcome.
If you develop your emotional intelligence by applying these practices then you will become a better person and leader. To learn more about emotional intelligence, I recommend Daniel Golman’s books: Primal Leadership: Learning to Lead with Emotional Intelligence and Emotional Intelligence: 10th Anniversary Edition; Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
Question: How do you develop your emotional intelligence?